I grew up on the west side of Chicago. My parents had me when they were 18 and they did their best to raise me while learning how to be independent, functioning adults themselves. Although the process was long and painful, together we figured it out. Along the way I also had to figure out who I am and what kind of woman I want to be. Since I was young, I’ve always been an observer. I’ve watched my parents and grandparents follow traditional paths and generational curses that caused them trauma and set them back in life. Things that bound them and created pain that was passed down to me. After years of hard lessons, I’m finally breaking the cycle.
As a teenager I knew that I don’t want kids or a conventional wedding. I learned that I’m pansexual. I learned that I’m polyamorous. I’ve learned that I prefer to work for myself, the 9-5 model does not make me happy. After a while I began to see a pattern. Although I’ve known these things for years it took me so long to speak truth to them. To admit to myself that I was on a different path than the one my mother and my grandmother paved for me. Without realizing it I had rejected all the traditions and expectations my family had for me and began building a new life for myself. One in which I’m truly free from the expectations of family or society.
While reflecting on my own life I stopped to wonder how many Black and Brown womxn out there are like me. How many of us are having to unlearn everything we’ve been taught in order to find ourselves? How many of us have been hiding behind who we’ve been told we should be? How many of us are unhappy, unsatisfied, unfulfilled, or stuck?
I created Leesa Lives to find other womxn like me. I hope that we can help each other break the generational curses that bind us and uplift each other as we we learn to grow into who we really are. My stories, experiences, and posts are by no means meant to be a user manual, but I hope that if there is a young BIWOC out there who is trying to free herself, she will see this blog and know that she’s not alone.